The Carman Clan

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Terrance John’s Birth Story

It is amazing how fast labor really can come on, the doctor wasn’t kidding. Long story ahead!

Monday did not start like any normal day. I was up since 2 am because I got up to use the bathroom for the 3rd time and then couldn’t fall asleep because I was hungry. By 4 I finally was falling back asleep after laying on the couch, only to be elbowed 30 minutes later and awoken. By this time Odyn had started pacing every time I moved and Eysa started crying. I bit the bullet and got up to take them out, feed them and keep them quiet so Ed could enjoy his day off. Later in the morning we headed to my weekly doctors appointment, though I was not too thrilled with this one, seeing as I was 40 weeks 3 days and tired of being pregnant. I was cramping and having low back pain all morning, and though this was normal it was definitely stronger. My appointment was a bust in my eyes, I saw the Nurse Practitioner, she did my check and I was still 3cm and 70% effaced and my BP was up. She didn’t sweep my membranes saying they liked to let things happen naturally. We talked about induction and she put in a request to have the lady call to schedule. When we left I was fighting tears, I really didn’t want an induction, I wanted him to come on his terms, but knew he couldn’t stay in forever. Ed and I decided on Sunday or Monday and hoped he would come sooner.

When we got home I went back to bed for 2 hours, while Ed hit the grocery. Once I was awake at 2, I ate lunch, played with the dogs out back and hung out on the couch a lot. The cramping was still pretty bad and I was feeling yucky. At about 5:30 I decided to take a bath, to ease the cramping. We have the best tub, deep jacuzzi tub, perfect for soaking. When I got out at 6, I was hit with the worst contraction I had to date, I had to sit down on the toilet because I didn’t know what was going on. Once it passed I told Ed about it and decided to sit on the birthing ball, and realized I was now getting them every 5 minutes. Being the thinker he is Ed fed the dogs and decided to jump in the shower. At 6:30 as I was texting with Sheena about my contractions I had the urge to go to the bathroom. Stood up, walked two steps and felt a tiny gush and then a big one, and they kept coming. I doubled over in laughter and tears yelling for Ed that my water broke anne I needed a towel while holding Odyn at bay. Poor Ed rushed to finish his shower, and we attempted to finish packing up. I wasn’t much help, the contractions started strong and fast and my whole lower abdomen hurt constantly. He ran next door to the neighbors about taking care of the dogs and off we went, out the door by 6:55 and arriving at Winnie Palmer Hospital by 7:20. Into triage I went and god bless our nurse for realizing I was laboring fast and strong. The only bad part about triage is being tied to a bed for monitoring. My plan for a natural birth quickly went out the window when my contractions were going fast no more then 2 minutes between and constant stomach pain. I couldn’t have made it without Ed and our nurse. In my tears and fighting they kept reminding I could do it when I said I couldn’t. When we arrived and I was checked I was 5/6cm dilated, 20 minutes later a 7! Our nurse kicked into high gear, a bed had been arranged but no one had come for us yet, and they didn’t want the baby born in triage. Finally we were on our way, now I don’t know how you normally go up but I know its not by gurney through the hospital lobby with the nurses yelling hold the elevator and joking not to push.

When we got to room 2112, at about 8:30, bless the nurses heart because she got Steve the nurse anesthetist fast! I am so glad I got the epidural I felt a world of relief and my BP  started to come down. The next time I was checked I was a 9 and Dr. Tandor (doc on call) was joking about going home. Not long before 10 I was a ten and the room kicked into high gear to prepare. Pushing started at about 10:15 and was harder then I imagined, but once he started coming I was surprised how much I felt. Terrance John Carman entered into docs arms at 10:38pm on 02/20/2012 weighing 8lbs 14oz and 22in long.

who would believe it but 40 weeks

I certain never would have believed that Baby C would be inhabiting my womb until 40 weeks especially after last weeks doctors appointment. But here we are 40 weeks (well 40 +3 now) and still waiting. I guess thats why they call it an Estimated Due Date and why they say most first time Moms got 41 weeks. I have a doctors appointment tomorrow morning and I know we will be discussing Induction, and yes I will be scheduling but not right away. My body shows sign of progress, but for medical reasons they don’t like you to go too long, and I trust the people with the M.D. after their name.

Hopefully this time next week our little man will have joined us, I guess he just wanted to be a Pisces like his Mom and Papa!

Our Love Story….

This has been all over the blogsphere today, and although I am not a big blogger I thought it was cute!

1. How long have you and your significant other been together?

4 years on 3/1. We don’t have an official dating date but we always say 3/1 because thats when we started hanging out at my 25th birthday bash.

2. How did you meet?

Ed and I met playing softball in the fall of 2007 when he subbed for the softball team I was playing for. He had grabbed the wrong jersey and was trying to fit in a small! We talked occasionally at the fields, and then in the spring I invited him to the party we were having for my birthday.

3. How long have you been married?

10 months and 18 days- our 1st anniversary is March 26

4. Where did you get married at? Big or small wedding?

We had our ceremony at St. Mary Magdalen Catholic Church and our reception at the Sheraton. It was originally going to be a huge wedding, but since 70% of our guest list were from out of town we ended up with 100 less than invited. We still had 125 and it was a gorgeous and fun wedding!

4. Do you have any nick-names that you call one another?

Ed calls me Pig-Pen he gets the usual babe, hunny, but sometimes he is Special Ed.

6. Name 3 things you love most about your honey.

I love that he loves to cook, he is much more patient and creative then me in the kitchen. I love his patience with me, our crazy dogs (ok only Eysa), and with the kids he works with. I love that he grounds me and supports me.

7.  Tell us how he proposed?

In September of 2009 we stopped into Kay Jewelers  to look at rings, and were told about a special event they were having the next week with Dana Augustine. We went back and designed my ring. The ring was then promptly hidden from me. On October 17 we took an adventure to Bok Tower Gardens. Once we found the white garden he came up behind me with the ring and asked me to marry him. We spent the rest of the day touring the gardens, picking up some plants and drinking a beer.

8. Is he a flowers and teddy bear kind of guy for v-day or strawberries, champagne, and rose petals?

Well Ed hates the smell of roses, and the night of our wedding our “coordinator” decorated our bed with rose petals. Nice thought but hilarious at the time since I told her how much he hates roses. But Ed is a Flowers kind of guy, he actually brought me Pink Roses and Small Carnations on Saturday as a pre-valentines day/baby present.

9. Are you a sunset dinner on the beach kind of girl or a pop a movie in and relax on the couch?

We love to go out to a nice dinner, but love popping in a movie and relaxing on the couch!

10. Tell us one thing you’d like to do with your significant other one day? 

I would love for us to travel more, we went to Ireland on our honeymoon and had a blast. Although I promised him next time we won’t rent a car somewhere.

11. Tell us what you plan on doing this Valentine’s Day.

Well if we have it the way we want we would be in the hospital with our son, but I doubt that is happening, so we will be relaxing at home with a nice home cooked meal, glass of sparkling grape juice and hang out on the couch.

12. Are you asking for anything for Valentine’s day?

Labor, seriously. Other than that no, my birthday is in 11 days, our anniversary is in 41 and we close on our new house in roughly 16 days, therefore I need nothing but a nice back rub.

13. Give us one piece of advice for keeping a relationship strong and full of love.

Honesty. We try to stay honest and open with each other on all aspects of life and marriage whether it be dinner choices, stank butts or home improvement choices.

14. Show us a picture of what love means to you.

39 weeks

I can’t believe we have made it to 39! I thought for sure Baby C would arrive early. This past weekend was spent working around the house, relaxing and spending time with family. Ed’s cousin and her family were in town to visit Disney and we had the pleasure of having dinner together on Sunday. The two older girls have specific food allergies, and George did a great job accommodating them. My task was dessert, and although sorbet was suggested, its $3-$5 for a pint of sorbet and their were 13 of us. No happening. Instead I made Carrot Cake, nut free with a  nondairy cream cheese icing. Delicious!

Carrot Cake (via

  • 4 eggs
  • 3/4 cups vegetable oil
  • 1/4 cups applesauce
  • 1 cups white sugar
  • 1 cup brown sugar
  • 2 teaspoons vanilla extract
  • 2 cups all-purpose flour
  • 2 teaspoons baking soda
  • 2 teaspoons baking powder
  • 1/2 teaspoon salt
  • 2 teaspoons ground cinnamon
  • 1/4 teaspoons nutmeg
  • 3 cups grated carrots
  • 1 cup chopped pecans
  • 1 can pineapple


  1. Preheat oven to 350 degrees F (175 degrees C). Grease and flour a 9×13 inch pan.
  2. In a large bowl, beat together eggs, oil, white sugar and 2 teaspoons vanilla. Mix in flour, baking soda, baking powder, salt and cinnamon. Stir in carrots. Fold in pecans. Pour into prepared pan.
  3. Bake in the preheated oven for 40 to 50 minutes, or until a toothpick inserted into the center of the cake comes out clean. Let cool in pan for 10 minutes, then turn out onto a wire rack and cool completely.
  4. To Make Frosting: In a medium bowl, combine butter, cream cheese, confectioners’ sugar and 1 teaspoon vanilla. Beat until the mixture is smooth and creamy. Stir in chopped pecans. Frost the cooled cake.

Dairy Free Icing (Via

  • 4 oz. non-dairy or organic cream cheese (i.e. Tofutti Better Than Cream Cheese)
  • 3 T. non-dairy margarine (i.e. Earth Balance)
  • 2 c. powdered sugar

I had my checkup yesterday at 39.4 days and had my first cervical check. Yikes glad I didn’t have one before. Things look good and I am 3cm dilated and 70% effaced. Does that mean I will go into labor ASAP, no but he said it means I am a good candidate for induction if need be, but knows I want to go natural. He stripped my membranes too so here is to hoping Baby C arrives before his due date. Post appointment I had some good signs that my body is doing what it is supposed to, but being a first timer I am not sure if they really mean anything. Dr. M is delivering Thursday so maybe Baby C will come then.

The last 3 weeks

Baby C is growing slowly but surely. We were hoping he would have arrived by now, but he has is own agenda. Doc says my pregnancy has been perfect, and hasn’t needed to do a cervical check yet. He has explained to me it is common in the US to start checking early, but it means nothing. You can be closed and go into labor tonight or be 4 cm for weeks. And even though his head is super low it also means nothing besides he knows which way is out. First check is next Monday at 39 + 3 and I am hoping to get my membranes stripped too.

36 weeks

37 weeks (yikes I look bad)

38 weeks

Weight gain: lets not talk about it! 1 pant size up, but a lot less muscle tone. Oh running I miss you!

Cravings: nothing abnormal

Activity: lots of walking the dogs and myself, a little bit of the elliptical, lots of bouncing on the ball

I had a massage last week that made me feel like a million bucks!

Full Moon tonight, they say lots of babies come, but I think he is nice and cozy inside.

The new house

The last 3 weeks have been very eventful here in the Carman household! No Baby C hasn’t arrived, but we finally got approval on 1/30 for our new house. That means by March 2 we will close, or the sellers lose the approval from the bank. On February 2 we had our inspection and things went pretty well. No major work needs to be done that the inspection identified, except that the pool wasn’t cleaned like promised. The water was so filthy that we couldn’t see the bottom and the water level was so low we couldn’t run the pump efficiently. But the pump did work. The pool has 1970’s tile, its awesome from what we can tell. Otherwise all the stuff that needs to be done is mostly minor but some of it will be pricey. The entire fence needs to be replaced, or when Odyn jumps on it, it may go down. The screened porch needs to be rescreened, parts of the frame are coming apart and the roof of it needs to be fixed (Ed thinks). The only other big thing we plan to do is put a mesh fence around the pool before moving in, so we don’t have any accidental swimming dogs. It will also be useful when Baby C gets bigger, and give us all a piece of mind. Onto house pictures!

Front of the house- split level

Laundry area (I will miss having a separate laundry room, but I will survive)

Kitchen (I am standing in the breakfast room area)

Living Room & Dining Room to the left

Downstairs Family Room/Dog Room/Future Playroom

Workout Room Area (attached to downstairs family room)

Master Bedroom, closets and bathroom (If you have been to our current house you realize how exciting this is. Our current bedroom is 10×10 and our bathroom is a shower, toilet and sink on top of each other. Also we have 1 shared closet.

Baby C’s room (princess border will come down and be repainted)

There are 2 more bedrooms or different sizes upstairs too, one will be Ed’s office and the other will be our guest room and my sewing room.

Last but not least the pool! and Firepit area!!

The entire inside of the house needs a good cleaning and some patching and painting, the entire house is beige! Beige walls, carpet, tile. The only thing not beige is the appliances. Some rooms will stay the flesh colored beige, but most will get an update. We are lucky that we don’t have to rush out of our house, so we will close around March 1 or 2 and not move until the end of the month. I am working on packing what I can but it is difficult since we need mostly everything and there is not much room in our 1400sq foot house to put boxes and stuff.

I hope to update with pictures once we close, paint and decorate rooms (and fix the pool).

The growing bump

We have been taking belly shots, even if I forget to share them! We we forgot week 32, sorry!

30 weeks

31 weeks

32 weeks? Got busy and forgot, just imagine slightly bigger from 31 to 33

33 weeks- getting ready to workout

34 weeks- excuse the half closed eyes and scrubby clothes, that is what happens when you lose your job!

35 weeks- getting low!

36 weeks appointment is Wednesday, and hopefully he will give me an update on Baby C’s position and dilation!

Holiday wrap-up and house update

Things have been crazy around here, stay tuned for an information/photo bomb.

Christmas was fabulous with my husband, he spoiled me as usual. We enjoyed Christmas Eve dinner at our house with my Mom, Marv and Ed’s parents. Christmas morning Ed and I headed to church with his parents, and then back home to do presents. The afternoon and evening were spent at his parents with dinner and presents. It was quiet, much quieter then I grew up with. I actually really missed Christmas with my family this year.

New Years was relaxed, Ed and I spent the night at home with the new fire pit (christmas present I have wanted forever!). The poor dogs were not fans of the neighbors shooting fireworks off beginning at 6pm. Eysa was terrified, hiding in her crate, under the desk, etc. Anytime she came outside another one would go off and she would run. Since we use loud noises to startle her when she is being bad it was not a good combo. Especially for a dog who is scared of strangers too. Odyn even wasn’t a fan.

We have still been waiting on word on the house, short sales are not short. We hopefully will know next week if the bank signed off.

I lost my job last week, the details are weird, there is no way I can file a lawsuit and even if I could I don’t think it is worth it. I am going to enjoy my extra time preparing for Baby C. I also noticed without driving to the office everyday my hips and back don’t hurt!

I had my second baby shower and Baby C was well spoiled by my friends and our family.

This quilt was made by my 11 (almost 12) year old niece for Baby C. She did a fantastic job, and once he is born and we share his name I plan to make an iron on to put on the backside with her name that it was made for ___ ____ and his birthdate.

Other than that we are almost 100% set on baby stuff! I hit a local consignment sale when they had a fill a bag for $10. I scored 52 items for Baby C. I tried to grab a lot of jeans and pants. Then yesterday we met a former c0-worker of Ed’s and his wife for dinner at their house, and were given a giant bag of NB and 0-3 month clothes that their son just outgrew. I seriously won’t have to do laundry forever at this rate! His rocker is done too, I will post pictures of his cushion I made and the rocker his daddy sanded and stained to match the rest of the furniture. It looks awesome. I have been acclimating to sitting in there, so the dogs get used to it. We figure we will be here for at least a month with Baby C before moving, so we need to acclimate them.

29 weeks & hopefully a house

Wow house hunting has hopefully come to a close. On the Tuesday before Thanksgiving I got an email alert about a new listing. FYI our realtor setup automated emails that alert us for houses that fall into our criteria. She was going out of town for Thanksgiving but could show us the house on Sunday. We were super excited, low price, great neighborhood, cuts my commute to 30 minutes, near my in-laws and our church. Ed and I got to the house a little bit before Jo on Sunday and started snooping around. Okay really I was hoping the backdoor was left unlocked because I had to pee! The house was charming from the outside and even better inside. It needs a little work, not much mostly carpets cleaned, screen porch rescreened, patching and painting in a few spots, baby pool gate added, section of fence replaced and the front garage lights replaced. The kitchen and bathrooms have been updated, hardwood/laminate in the living room/dining room and the bedrooms are huge in comparison to our house. The backyard is a decent size in addition to the pool.

We put in offer in that night and waited with baited breathe. You see the house is an approved short sale. The people who were trying for it before were only approved at X amount and the bank approved $6,000 more. We made the full offer and didn’t ask for closing costs. On Monday we found out their were 4 offers!! We added an addendum offering $3,000 more and waited to see if they accepted us. Tuesday we found out the sellers did and would be sending our contract to the bank. So now we are waiting, hopefully they take it, I think if we have to look at anything after this we will continually compare it.

Last Monday we had our first lamaze class too. Some people said it was a waste, but I already learned a few things. I never knew what the stations meant and we learned a birth position that enables Ed to massage my hips. Speaking of my hips they have been KILLING me! Between sciatic nerve pain and over doing it at work this weekend I could barely walk Sunday. Thanks to my wonderful hubby for massaging, and even bigger thanks for installing a jacuzzi tub (I used it sans jets with a low temp). I even rocked my compression socks on Saturday to hopefully beat the leg pain. Back to the weekend in a few.

Last Tuesday we had another checkup at the specialist for Baby C to double check that everything was still good with his head. We had a different doc, and he wasn’t very warm and fuzzy but he confirmed that Baby C is fine! According to the ultrasound tech he is 1) still a boy 2) stubborn like his daddy and hid his face 3) 3.1 lbs and measuring 9 days ahead!

Ed’s Aunt had a dream that Baby C makes his entrance Jan. 22. I keep saying January, so I guess I better get cracking and get my work done so when I am ready to go I can go and not leave anyone high and dry with my events.

As for this past weekend I had a cocktail party event Friday night and was back early for Breakfast with Santa. By the end of the night Friday my feet were swollen and by Saturday afternoon it hurt to walk. I took my annual picture with Santa and am wondering how I am going to make it through 3 events next weekend!






















Bad room for photos, everything came out so Orange!

As for 28 weeks we forgot! Sorry to disappoint, but he is bigger this week. I don’t get on the scale anymore, and have gained more then I planned. It is hard for me, but I know it is for a purpose. When I can run/workout regularly without back pain again it will be good. No weird cravings still, and we have taken to reading Baby C books almost every night.

27 weeks & a wedding

This weekend was a whirlwind! I left Saturday morning at 6am for a flight to Philly for one of my childhood friends weddings. I have known Sara since we were 13 and both joined the Mean Green Canoe Team.

I can’t say we were the best of friends at the very beginning, but we established a strong friendship fast! We spent 3 summers together after HS working at Camp Hidden Falls telling the kids we were twins and being Zicket before there was a Bennifer or whatever. Camp names- Me= Cricket Sara = Zeke

We raced together for many years before I abandoned her for Florida. (note to self scan old racing photos!)

On March 26 Sara was a reader for us in our wedding.

And on November 19 I had the pleasure of being at hers! We took some fun photos, poor Sara though just wanted to dance. Which I have to say was not the most comfortable for my belly, so it didn’t happen.






Mean Greens (and Tim since he is Saras Co-Coach now)

Camp Hidden Falls Girls! Me, Bunny, Zeke & Gimpy. We spent many a summers together singing, laughing and loving what we did and the lives we impacted!


And finally I arrived home Sunday, took my 27 week photo and then went house hunting. Which so far is a bust, and some houses were just down right gross. Hopefully we find something we love soon!


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